There is perhaps, no greater debilitating belief, Laurel, than thinking there are elements of your reality that you cannot control - be they fate, karma, the influence of other people, your stars, your palm, your loves, your looks, your personality, your intelligence, your sense of humor, or chocolate.
You simply decide everything, moment to moment.
Next decision please -
The Universe
And while you may not remember all the decisions you've made, Laurel, if you simply start with the ones you make today, it will always be enough.