It's kind of strange, Laurel, but first you have to know what you want, defined in terms of the end result. And then you have to physically move towards it, without defining the hows.
At which point, the thing you want actually starts coming to you, on its own terms, from a direction completely unexpected.
Not unlike a cat,
The Universe
Just carry on, Laurel, detached from the details and timing, and perhaps act like you just couldn't care less. Meow.